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Amir Levine is a psychiatrist, a neuroscientist, an associate professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Columbia University, and the coauthor of the mega-bestseller Attached.
I just read and loved his new book, which is called, Secure: The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life.
Today, we review the four attachment styles and the myths surrounding them. Amir explains how each of us—regardless of our starting point—can flex and become more secure in our relationships. He takes us through his tools for those of us who tend to be more anxious, and his strategies for those of us who tend to be more avoidant. He explains why certain seemingly insignificant minor interactions—which he calls SIMIs—have an outsize effect on our brains and our intimate relationships.
We talk about a lot of psychological phenomena that I think will resonate with many of you—from attachment gaslighting to something called “the protest-regret cycle.” Amir offers some advice for turning down the volume on the insecure attachments in your life, and for finding what he calls the hidden sparks of talent in our partners and in our ourselves.
This conversation was such a delightful one!
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