All the episodes I've devoted to understanding sexuality—along with my favorite books on the topic.
Jul 10, 2026
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Should Romantic Love Be at the Center of Our Lives (Melissa Febos)
Listen now (59 mins) | "But I didn't want to just stop forever being erotically and romantically and intimately connected to other people. I wanted to find out how to do that in a way that didn't..."
Pulling the Thread by Elise Loehnen • Elise Loehnen
What Makes Love Last (John & Julie Gottman, PhDs)
Listen now (56 min) | “I’ve never really figured out how come we stop asking each other questions. You know, we always do that in the beginning of a relationship..."
The Closet of Inauthenticity (Jessi Hempel)
Listen now (49 mins) | “My childhood was a childhood in the closet. I had some good things. I had some bad things, like living in the closet is, you know, not always..."
Understanding Our Sexual Potential (Ian Kerner, PhD)
Listen now (48 min) | “We sort of get into this, you know, relational model. And look, when it's working, when sex is a form of intimacy and merging and lovemaking..."
Finding Our Desire (Emily Morse)
Listen now (71 mins) | “Sex is not a quick fix when there's these foundational challenges that you're having, you're like, I know how to give oral sex a million different ways, but I'm not in the..."
On Maintaining Desire (Emily Nagoski, PhD)
Listen now (59 mins) | "The deal is your bodies are going to change over time and people can stay attracted to somebody's body over time, even though it is unrecognizable from what it was like..."
Conflict as a Tool for Growth (Esther Perel)
Listen now (59 mins) | You cannot differentiate when you never fight. Fighting is also a tool for differentiation, for having two people be able to breed and grow inside a relationship..."
Being Transcendent (Geena Rocero)
Listen now (63 mins) | “I believe certainly, I know now, after have going through this years and years of feeling ashamed of who I am, you know, internalizing the shame, how America sees trans..."
Do We Misunderstand the Point of Monogamy? (Dan Savage)
Listen now (62 mins) | “If we want our monogamous relationships to survive, they need to be able to survive the almost inevitable infidelity that will touch them.”
Why Don’t We Believe Women? (Deborah Tuerkheimer)
Listen now (45 min) | “Outside the legal context, I'm urging readers and listeners in this case to think very deliberately about whether that high standard of proof..."
The Risk it Takes to Bloom (Raquel Willis)
Listen now (43 mins) | “Well, the interesting thing is, I guess some of this came from writing the book too, but all of those versions of me live inside of me, right? Even the kid that was..."
The Best Books About Sexuality
Sexuality is arguably one of the most complex facets of our lives, from the sublime to the scarring.
