Listen now (43 mins) | “I think what one of the things that's interesting to me is like when we think about what causes distress and a life that goes awry, there's so much attention to different..."

Listen now (60 mins) | “So circling can be very personal, meaning you have your own awareness. It's not like, you know, you come to a circle and everybody sees you and they know everything about..."

Listen now (51 mins) | “The focus of adulthood has been on stability, just, you know, find a job and don't leave it, find a partner and don't get divorced..."

Listen now (52 mins) | “This waiting for approval from daddy—all of that is so antithetical to actually living your own existence..."

Listen now (51 mins) | "What optogenetics does is it's an engine of discovery. It helps us identify what matters, what's causing things to happen in the brain. And we know now the cells..."

Listen now (53 min) | “But the true guru, you know, the Buddha came and turned all that inside out. You know the Buddha taught the Four Noble Truths..."

Listen now (52 min) | “Sometimes you can't see the full path. And so you don't even venture into the unknown, you know, you're unhappy..."

Listen now (55 mins) | "What I became aware of when I started writing about resistance and I thought the healthy body resists infection. We have an immune system and the healthy psyche resists..."

Listen now (61 mins) | “Now the tragedy, in one sense is a tragedy, that often people only become open when they've suffered horribly when that is both the tragedy of trauma, but also the promise."

Listen now (50 min) | “I think what COVID did was it really made people realize that the state of their emotions, the state of their relationships, all of those things..."

Listen now (56 min) | “I’ve never really figured out how come we stop asking each other questions. You know, we always do that in the beginning of a relationship..."

Listen now (67 mins) | “And I think a lot of us embody this, what I call the paradox of the courageous coward, right? Like, we're capable of doing these things that are bonkers..."

Listen now (54 mins) | “The whole sense though, of the Upper Limit Problem, is instead of feeling good and then feeling bad, which is how we think it's supposed to work. You know, you feel bad..."

Listen now (52 mins) | “When I can pause for a moment, the next action becomes really easy. And that’s all I really need is the next action that’s going to start getting me back into the flow..."

Listen now (59 mins) | "That’s true for all of, I think, the fawn response, which is it keeps people at a distance. If we’re only showing people the most perfect curated version of ourselves..."

Listen now (45 mins) | “You want to find yourself? Give. We're not hungry for what we're not getting. We're hungry for what we're not giving. And then at the same time, you watch this old pattern..."

Listen now (50 mins) | “But it's also okay not to get it right. You know, people mistakenly think that they want perfection, say you're playing golf and you wish you could get a hole..."

Listen now (58 min) | “I think it's very important to mention also, Elise, that even if a woman feels permission to be angry, that anger..."

Listen now (56 mins) | So I think the research overwhelmingly shows that people who are secure, the benefits are really far and wide, not just in relationships, also for us ourselves, for how..."

Listen now (46 mins) | “There are therapies where the person is made to relive their traumas over and over and over again. It's called flooding. And that's the one type..."

Listen now (53 mins) | “There are studies showing that, once your basic needs are met, and you're not worried about losing your house, losing your health care, increases in money don't..."

Listen now (46 mins) | "We might see wintering as this defined phase where we are struggling, but I wanted to talk about being in contact with our emotions on an everyday basis..."

Listen now (47 mins) | “Here's what I would say: peace will happen when people invest in cultivating peace as opposed to war. Peace will happen. And one thing I know, for me, I know peace, I know..."

Listen now (62 mins) | “It's important to realize that yes, menopause can come with symptoms, but the symptoms are not alien symptoms. We've seen them before. We've seen them at puberty..."

Listen now (46 mins) | “The real meaning of ‘remember’ is to put the members back together, to make whole. So a lot of times we go back in time to a special time or a special moment and nostalgia..."

Listen now (59 mins) | You cannot differentiate when you never fight. Fighting is also a tool for differentiation, for having two people be able to breed and grow inside a relationship..."

Listen now (54 mins) | “Part of middle life is that hopefully there's a little bit of wisdom there. And I think that is part of what we gain as we go through this journey of life is that there..."

Listen now (61 mins) | "Know this is happening and if you can come into alignment with this is the way the human being functions, you can do the work to lower the reservoir..."

Listen now (58 mins) | “I’m trying to map the territory in the center world, just the way I did with families and the distinction that immediately leaped out was between parts..."

Listen now (62 min) | “How do we actually with due speed, because this is a timely issue, start to live in modern culture, which has taken over the planet basically live in a way that is really..."

Listen now (43 mins) | “If there is this part of you that you think is inferior, the weak spot, something you're ashamed of, etc., it's one of these things where if you believe it's true, there's..."

Listen now (45 mins) | "The human being is the most giving, self-sacrificing, loving entity and also is the most devious, amoral, vicious, and murderous is the better word..."

Listen now (59 mins) | “I think it's really important for, you know, people to realize that you can totally be an absolutely excellent parent of a traumatized child and the trauma had nothing..."

Listen now (51 min) | “I think the biggest challenge with codependency is when a family member is catered to when their unhealthy or toxic behavior is catered to..."

Listen now (51 min) | “As a therapist, I started to discover that when people need boundaries, they start to have issues around anxiety in their relationships..."

Listen now (65 mins) | “Boundaries don't tell other people what to do. They tell other people what you are willing to do to take responsibility..."

Listen now (59 mins) | "Nobody wants to be somebody with a serious substance use problem. Nobody wants to be addicted to a substance. I mean, it doesn't feel good. Dependency doesn't feel good."

Listen now (64 mins) | "Well, the first thing that's going on is we're creating new neural pathways in our brain of a new experience and really a new way our brain is performing."

Listen now (54 mins) | “If you have a reaction to a stranger or someone in the media or someone in politics or someone who's just providing this kind of blank slate because you don't really..."

This is obviously an incredibly wide and nebulous category (I also have shelves devoted to addiction, trauma, relationships, death and dying, spirituality, etc.