Listen now (51 mins) | “The focus of adulthood has been on stability, just, you know, find a job and don't leave it, find a partner and don't get divorced..."

Listen now (55 min) | "This to me is basic, but it feels like we've drifted really far from it in our culture. That to be a human, the basic condition of being a human is being needful..."

Listen now (55 mins) | "What I became aware of when I started writing about resistance and I thought the healthy body resists infection. We have an immune system and the healthy psyche resists..."

Listen now (62 min) | "And then there was that moment where she sent me that brief email where she affirmed his essential goodness, his essential integrity and his worth as a father, which was..."

Listen now (67 mins) | "So the first thing that I’ll say about faith is that it’s incredibly challenging for any of us to describe how we feel about this universe and how it’s organized..."

Listen now (56 min) | “I’ve never really figured out how come we stop asking each other questions. You know, we always do that in the beginning of a relationship..."

Listen now (63 mins) | “The thing is the type of thinking where you can figure out how mechanical things work. It’s a different kind of intelligence..."

Listen now (49 mins) | “My childhood was a childhood in the closet. I had some good things. I had some bad things, like living in the closet is, you know, not always..."

Listen now (55 mins) | "This is, I think, when people need more help remembering how to access their play or kind of letting themselves play, because adults do play. This is one of the things that..."

Listen now (59 mins) | "That’s true for all of, I think, the fawn response, which is it keeps people at a distance. If we’re only showing people the most perfect curated version of ourselves..."

Listen now (61 mins) | “I think that with regulation, the funny thing is that it's either I want to control the weather around my children, or I want to control my children, but regulation..."

Listen now (62 min) | “How do we actually with due speed, because this is a timely issue, start to live in modern culture, which has taken over the planet basically live in a way that is really..."

Listen now (61 mins) | “One thing my work has taught me is how human interaction is a comedy of errors. People are making so many errors without knowing it. I think I'm making sense to you, but..."

Listen now (49 mins) | “Our anger is ‘I'm angry because something happened that I feel was unjust or unfair’ And if it continues, then I want my justice and you know, our injustices from childhood..."

Listen now (64 mins) | "Well, the first thing that's going on is we're creating new neural pathways in our brain of a new experience and really a new way our brain is performing."

I tried to satisfy a lot of different instincts on this shelf as there is simply no single way to parent—and anyone who parents siblings knows, no two kids are alike and they all need radically different things.